If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di
If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not.
First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call.
Pros
For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much different.
With relationships, you constantly need to appease your partner and you need to be there for them. All the time, not just when it comes to sex. To some, this is a tiring task and it is why they would rather stick to just going from person the person. This is understandable to some level. After all, human relationships are complicated and not all of us are prepared to deal with them. Especially when our emotions are on the line.
But one other thing that many people love about their friends with benefits is that there's no sudden feeling of loss when it comes to "breaking up". There was no emotional attachment to begin with, so why would you cry about someone you just had around to please yourself? It's great, you don't need to cry for days to get back on your feet. You don't need extra time to heal. Or to learn to trust again. Well, at least in most cases, because...
With relationships, you constantly need to appease your partner and you need to be there for them. All the time, not just when it comes to sex. To some, this is a tiring task and it is why they would rather stick to just going from person the person. This is understandable to some level. After all, human relationships are complicated and not all of us are prepared to deal with them. Especially when our emotions are on the line.
But one other thing that many people love about their friends with benefits is that there's no sudden feeling of loss when it comes to "breaking up". There was no emotional attachment to begin with, so why would you cry about someone you just had around to please yourself? It's great, you don't need to cry for days to get back on your feet. You don't need extra time to heal. Or to learn to trust again. Well, at least in most cases, because...
Cons
You can get attached. This is probably the worst thing that can happen to you if you have a friend with benefits. You develop feelings and you can even fall for them. Meanwhile, they are over there very likely having casual sex with others because you two promised each other that you don't want to commit. And it hurts to know that. Fortunately, you can learn how to get rid of these feelings.
But what if this doesn't happen? What else could go wrong?
STDs, for example. This got way too real in such a short time. If you regularly sleep with someone who doesn't commit and has casual sex with you and other people then you increase your chances of catching something. Yes, even if you use protection, there's always a chance of it failing and leaving you with something that you need to show your gyno. This can be painful or uncomfortable. And the talk about it with your FWB will be just as painful and uncomfortable when you tell them.
And of course, there's another thing that can happen. Pregnancy.
We are not going to talk about abortion and adoptions or any other thing you can choose if you have an unplanned pregnancy. Because no matter what you do, you will have to go through a couple of things that are not so pleasant. This includes at least a couple of weeks when you wake up with nausea and sickness. And a ton of doctor's visits.
But those aren't the worst of it really... It's telling your FWB that you got pregnant. Then looking them in the eye and saying what you plan on doing. You will likely be faced with judgment no matter what you choose and there's a good chance that you will lose that person. This is especially awful if you want to keep them around, but this is still better than lying for a long period of time.
And honestly, you should just take the honest route.
Conclusion
We talked about the things that can happen, now we need to decide whether it's worth it or not. Well, it's not really my job to say. It's yours to think about it all and make sure what's best for you. If you are willing to take the risk and are prepared to deal with whatever comes your way, then go ahead. Have fun. If not, then you should probably wait at least a little bit.
Have you ever been friends with benefits with someone? If so, what was good about it? What wasn't? Tell me in the comments below or tweet at me!
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