How To Relationship 101

If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di...

Everyone has to start somewhere, and the same goes for dating. Nobody is born with all the knowledge on how a relationship works, which is why we need to learn before we can succeed at keeping a partner we're happy with. So, here's what a newbie should know about dating. First of all, let's define what the dating phase is about. It's core purpose is getting to know one another with the intention of staying together long-term. It's about learning how the other person works and how they can fit into your life. Which is why a lot of people lie when they first begin dating. Because they think they're not good enough. One thing to keep in mind: if you're not looking for a one night stand, short term partner or an FWB, then you absolutely cannot lie during the dating phase . You shouldn't in other cases either, but this will screw you over big time if you're planning on staying with someone. You might think you're not good en...

For some people, it's easy to decide when it's time to break up... But for the rest of us... Well, here's the quick guide if you don't know how to handle the end of the relationship. Because these aren't "just problems that can be easily solved". These are the dealbreakers. 1. You feel stuck We all know that a partner should encourage growth in us. Mental, physical or even spiritual if that's your thing. It's why we look for a life-long companion, so we have someone to help us become better. Once this element is gone... There's not much you can do. 2. You think of dating other people (seriously) We all have an occasional thought about a random stranger passing by, or even someone closer to us. Although it doesn't matter who the subject is, it's never serious. We quickly forget about it and go on about our day. But there are times when we become focused on one person. We daydream, we can't get them out of o...

The simplest way to find out your true intentions when starting a relationship is looking at the things that happened when you were happy. Yeah, I know, when I tried figuring these kinds of things first I was confused too and when this came to mind I was just like... Duh? Family This is usually the most common reason for people in their thirties to get into a relationship and quite honestly, the most logical. The ones who want a stable and reliable partner are also the ones who view family as a core part of a person's life, require a good amount of attention and are very likely caring. (Pro tip: they are the most ideal people to marry if you plan on having kids.) How you know this is what you want: You put stability first (in every aspect) and are not afraid to express that. You plan on getting into a long-term relationship each time you go on a date (you don't expect to, you just like to know how a partner would work out in a few years.) The moment: Y...

Are you kinda jealous? Have you had enough of the usual dating phase? Are you into more nerdy people? Then hear me out, because you may have the perfect guy/girl waiting for you just around the corner. We generally think of gamers as overweight anti-socials, when in reality, that stereotype is rarely ever true. The acne ridden, sweaty face you have in mind is more likely to be a justice warrior's that's currently white knighting on Twitter. (Ooops, might've been too specific.) The thing is: if we meet someone and this is one of the first traits we learn about them, then it usually becomes a deal breaker. But why is that? Mainly because of the stereotype. "He must be lazy." "She is probably sitting in front of the computer all day." "They don't have a life." I've heard all of these sentences as soon as someone mentioned that they like video games. An they're such BS. So let's address all...

If you feel distant from your partner and less intimate, then it's likely because you don't spice things up (not just in the bedroom, generally). The best and easiest way to solve this is by using the good old method of flirting. Be honest, when did you last try flirting with your partner? Well, I have no clue what your answer was, but I'm going to guess that it was a long time ago. Or you weren't thinking about actual flirting. 'Cause let's be honest, chilling together or going out on a date doesn't necessarily include actual  flirting. First of all, understand that it's one of the core elements in a relationship. It's required to keep the love going, have intimacy and it's also really great way of having fun when everything else fails. And yes, you could do all of that in a different way, but why would you? The thing is: it's the most effective way to heal a worn out relationship. Your partner will feel appreciated again, they w...

Enduring the distance between you and your partner can be an excruciating experience, so I brought you a couple of apps that might rescue you from some awful aspects of it. Between With Between you can have a private chatroom, expressive stickers and photo albums. And all of it is going to be saved, so you don't need to worry about getting a new phone and losing all of your memorable moments and conversations. But, most importantly, you can set events (for an anniversary, birthday, whatever) and the app will remind you when you tell it to. And the best part? You can create an event just for one of you, thus telling your partner when you're not available. Gaze When the usual "3, 2, 1, GO!" method fails, Gaze will come to rescue you. If you want to watch a movie with your loved one then all you need to do is share a link with them and you will be able to watch whatever you want. This is an excellent idea if you two can't find games to...

One of the main goals of a relationship should be growing. Whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually, your partner needs to encourage your growth and vice versa. Why else would you have someone else constantly around you? Most people forget this aspect in a relationship and this is why long lasting bonds aren't as healthy nowadays. So, if you don't want this to happen to you too, then consider following these pieces of advice. First of all, you need to set a realistic goal you want to reach together. Now, this might not be the same for the two of you, but it should be on the same topic (eating, exercising or learning). This should be achievable within the first two weeks of your journey and in an ideal situation you should be constantly motivated by your progress. In this phase you won't need to rely on your partner as much as in the third week, as that will be the hardest. You will want to give up and without enough discipline you will slowly let go o...

Holding hands is the first thing that can tell you whether two people are together or not. But besides identifying these things, it can tell a lot more. So if you have a significant other or a best friend buckle up and analyze your relationship with them just by reading a couple of paragraphs. Regular hand holding This is the most common way to hold hands. Your relationship isn't based on passion, but unconditional love and caring. If you hold hands like this then you're likely very affectionate, but you tend to keep things to a minimum. Holding pinkies It's quite uncommon for people to hold hands this way, but it's a special thing nonetheless. These people value and respect their partners, they give enough freedom and independence to each other, thus creating a healthy and unique relationship. Although, this can be a gateway to not holding hands, which can signify some trouble in the relationship or a rough phase. Interlocked...

Every once in a while we aren't be able to decide where to go on a date, so I decided to bring you a game that will help you get over this small obstacle. The best part? All you need is a coin! The rules 1. Get dressed to go out and grab a coin. 2. Tell your partner to pick a number between 10-20 (you will need to flip the coin this many times,        so you can adjust if you want to. 3. Heads is right, tails is left. Every time you come to an intersection flip the coin. 4. Once you've reached the end stop. Look around and make a date right there on the spot. Sounds easy enough, right? Then get out there, it only takes a couple of minutes! Will you try this? Tell me in the comments or  tweet at me ! Or check out the other  Random Ideas .

We all fear one thing in our relationships: betrayal. Emotional and physical. It doesn't matter if you're the jealous type or not, this slight distrust will always be deep within your heart. Rightfully so, we don't want to waste months or years on someone so worthless. And that is the exact reason why I need to warn all of you about these telltale signs. Here's how to know he's cheating. 1. Hiding things The first and most obvious thing you will notice is that your partner will suddenly change his privacy needs. He won't leave his phone around you, he will begin hiding it if he gets a message and most importantly: you will be constantly called jealous if you call him out on it. The latter is really important. He will turn everything on you and he will try to make you the one to blame. 2. Accusing you of cheating As weird as it sounds, a cheater will always feel like he's being betrayed too. He will notice the patterns that he h...

Whenever you're trying to stick to some kind of behavior or activity there are two ways to go about it. The most common is motivating yourself, but a lot of people think that discipline is better in the long run. So whether you're exercising, dieting or maintaining some kind of relationship, you will need to choose one or the other. Motivation Pros: You will feel like you're able to do anything Easy to achieve (if you have a proper source) Amazing for one-time things Gives you energy Cons: Will disappear if you fail several times Hard to maintain You won't have it on bad days Generally unreliable You will run out of it eventually Discipline Pros: Sticks with you for a lifetime Helps build your own discipline (it doesn't just help with whatever you're trying to do) Doesn't limit you if you fail Will help you through a ton of things Cons: Hard to achieve Requires commitment So, what do we know now...

It's become quite normal for people to think that being spontaneous is equal to being a good romantic partner. For the sole reason of being interesting. We're not here to debate it, although I am quite against the idea of spontaneity being the key. Instead, let's talk about how you should do it. First, of all, let's clear something up. Being spontaneous does not equal being unpredictable.  Do not become the latter just because you want to seem interesting, it is not a good trait to have in a relationship. Your partner wants you to be reliable and trustworthy, so please, do not confuse these two. Also, don't take everything too seriously, I'm just stating whatever seems to be working when it comes to spontaneity. Now let's get onto the Dos and Don'ts. Do Plan ahead Whatever you do should only seem random to your partner, it's much better to have things planned and knowing what comes after what. This is especially true if you're...

We all have rough patches and they can last for way too long. Days, weeks, or even months. It exhausts us just enough so that we will want to give up. We will only focus on the pain and sadness. And it will ruin us. So let me help you through the desperation and lead you towards some hope. Remember the time you met? How you kinda had a thing for him but wasn't sure? Close your eyes and live through those moments again. See them for the first time again. Then progress, think about when you first started dating, how your first kiss went, laugh if it was awful and smile if it was great and full of passion. Let yourself feel their lips for the first time again. Remember all those first times and really think through them. All the things that made you attracted to your partner, every aspect that actually made you stay with them in the first place. Even through tough times. Now remember the first time you had a disagreement. How did you solve it? How did you feel...

We start dating in our teenage years, when we're still young and carefree. Which is why these relationships are filled with so much passion. This is why our first crushes and relationships are so memorable, because they made us feel a lot more of love. But this isn't enough. Before I say anything: I know that some couples do make it and they spend their lives with each other, there are examples in my family. All I'm going to state in this post is what actually tears young couples apart. Now, let's talk about the core of it. First of all, when you first start dating you don't have any experience. Obviously. So, what happens is, two people get together, who only know how relationships work from movies. Or in more fortunate cases, they learn from their parents. But they only get to see whatever's on the surface. Because it's not all fun and games. It's a whole other person you have to take into consideration whenever you do something, and that...

Sharing your private space with your significant other is a big step, but it's even a bigger one if the two private spaces become one. And so, it requires a lot of consideration and a mutual agreement. It's a new phase and so, a whole new part of your life. But it's more difficult than you would first think. Living in the same space isn't easy. It takes a lot of cooperation and work, and sometimes you will find yourself thinking whether it was worth it or not. I mean, it definitely was, it's just not as simple as you thought it would be. So let's review what you can do before you rush into such a thing. How much time do you spend together? If you're together all day and spend every waking moment together, it won't make much of a difference. On the other hand, there are couples who try to escape the struggles of long distance relationships by moving in together. These are the people who spend 10-15 hours together every month. Or even less. In ...

Love is associated with that special spark . Butterflies in your stomach. Your breath being taken away whenever you see each other. Well, it's a cute thought, but unfortunately, it isn't the case in most relationships. Around the first anniversary, it starts to become boring and less adventurous. You become mundane to each other and you begin to wonder whether you're with the right person or not. Let's analyze this first. Why do things become boring? You get comfortable with each other. And that comes with a lot of things. A lot of disgusting things. Farting and burping are now completely okay and you've probably had to watch them puke after a night out. And it's okay. But you also let go of yourself. You stop trying to look good for your partner and because of this, you stop caring a little. So what if he sees you without makeup? So what if you wear one of his dirty hoodies? It's all good, you don't judge each other. These things ...

A lot of people think that every relationship has arguments, even worse, they should have arguments! Now, I understand that not having a single problem might be a sign of a secretive relationship, but that isn't always the case. However, most people do argue, mostly because we're humans and we don't like to change our mind. And that would be all okay, but unfortunately, we aren't taught how to do so, in a respectful way. Which is actually the most important part, as simple manners can change the outcome of the argument. So, how do should we fight? No shouting Some people use their loudness as a weapon, some use the absence of it. Either way, a fight is only fair when both parties keep their voice to a normal level. Also, this helps you stay calm, saving both of you a lot of stress and anger. Keep slurs out of it This one is obvious. No matter what happens, try to avoid calling each other things. It will be damaging in both the short and long run. Let...

The main problem with people is that they don't like to admit their faults. This is especially true for women. And this is only a minor problem, as long as the person isn't in a relationship. Then, you need to take steps to prevent it. "Egotism is the anesthetic which nature gives us to deaden the pain of being a fool." -Dr. Herbert Shofield I've been "working" on 7Cups for the past few weeks and I've worked with more than 50 people up until now. Most of them had relationship problems. I can't (and truthfully I don't want to) show examples, as these messages were private. I realized something in these short few weeks. Most women tend to overlook their own problems and focus on their partners'. We have a weird egocentric view on life, where we can't do anything wrong and most should revolve around us. And that's completely okay, but you need to take a few steps to stop it from damaging other things and people...

Many women struggle with keeping their reactions realistic when it comes to their partner's actions. Most men would say that this is the most annoying part of dating their significant other, the fact that they blow everything out of proportion and overreact to everything. Although, it's not just women who do this, we have to admit, we're the majority. There's nothing wrong with it, we're emotional people, but if we want to keep a healthy relationship going, then we need to address this problem and try to make ourselves better. Because let's be honest, it's childish. If you don't know if this is what you're struggling with, then let me give you an example. Your partner says something, maybe the statement they made was rude or their tone of voice was off. It makes you explode. Maybe you had a crappy day, maybe there was nothing wrong before this, but for some reason you feel as if this was over the line. You don't listen, you don't ac...