How To Relationship 101

If you feel distant from your partner and less intimate, then it's likely because you don't spice things up (not just in the bedroom, generally). The best and easiest way to solve this is by using the good old method of flirting. Be honest, when did you last try flirting with your partner? Well, I have no clue what your answer was, but I'm going to guess that it was a long time ago. Or you weren't thinking about actual flirting. 'Cause let's be honest, chilling together or going out on a date doesn't necessarily include actual  flirting. First of all, understand that it's one of the core elements in a relationship. It's required to keep the love going, have intimacy and it's also really great way of having fun when everything else fails. And yes, you could do all of that in a different way, but why would you? The thing is: it's the most effective way to heal a worn out relationship. Your partner will feel appreciated again, they w...

Enduring the distance between you and your partner can be an excruciating experience, so I brought you a couple of apps that might rescue you from some awful aspects of it. Between With Between you can have a private chatroom, expressive stickers and photo albums. And all of it is going to be saved, so you don't need to worry about getting a new phone and losing all of your memorable moments and conversations. But, most importantly, you can set events (for an anniversary, birthday, whatever) and the app will remind you when you tell it to. And the best part? You can create an event just for one of you, thus telling your partner when you're not available. Gaze When the usual "3, 2, 1, GO!" method fails, Gaze will come to rescue you. If you want to watch a movie with your loved one then all you need to do is share a link with them and you will be able to watch whatever you want. This is an excellent idea if you two can't find games to...

One of the main goals of a relationship should be growing. Whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually, your partner needs to encourage your growth and vice versa. Why else would you have someone else constantly around you? Most people forget this aspect in a relationship and this is why long lasting bonds aren't as healthy nowadays. So, if you don't want this to happen to you too, then consider following these pieces of advice. First of all, you need to set a realistic goal you want to reach together. Now, this might not be the same for the two of you, but it should be on the same topic (eating, exercising or learning). This should be achievable within the first two weeks of your journey and in an ideal situation you should be constantly motivated by your progress. In this phase you won't need to rely on your partner as much as in the third week, as that will be the hardest. You will want to give up and without enough discipline you will slowly let go o...

Well, I'm going to get a ton of hate for this... But there are times when you really shouldn't tell your parents something. Either because you don't want to, you can deal with it or it's just generally too embarrassing to talk about. So please, spare me all of the hateful comments saying: "Don't tell children to keep secrets from their parents!" Because I don't care that he/she has your blood, your kid can have secrets. They should be allowed to keep some things to themselves, because it's a healthy thing to actually have some privacy. Okay, let's clear something up first, your relationship with your parents should be the deciding factor for all this . If you feel like you can talk to them about whatever you're struggling with then go ahead. If you have a good relationship with them and you feel like they will understand then quit reading this and go. If you're conflicted then go ahead. Put your health first.  If ...

It's become quite normal for people to think that being spontaneous is equal to being a good romantic partner. For the sole reason of being interesting. We're not here to debate it, although I am quite against the idea of spontaneity being the key. Instead, let's talk about how you should do it. First, of all, let's clear something up. Being spontaneous does not equal being unpredictable.  Do not become the latter just because you want to seem interesting, it is not a good trait to have in a relationship. Your partner wants you to be reliable and trustworthy, so please, do not confuse these two. Also, don't take everything too seriously, I'm just stating whatever seems to be working when it comes to spontaneity. Now let's get onto the Dos and Don'ts. Do Plan ahead Whatever you do should only seem random to your partner, it's much better to have things planned and knowing what comes after what. This is especially true if you're...

We start dating in our teenage years, when we're still young and carefree. Which is why these relationships are filled with so much passion. This is why our first crushes and relationships are so memorable, because they made us feel a lot more of love. But this isn't enough. Before I say anything: I know that some couples do make it and they spend their lives with each other, there are examples in my family. All I'm going to state in this post is what actually tears young couples apart. Now, let's talk about the core of it. First of all, when you first start dating you don't have any experience. Obviously. So, what happens is, two people get together, who only know how relationships work from movies. Or in more fortunate cases, they learn from their parents. But they only get to see whatever's on the surface. Because it's not all fun and games. It's a whole other person you have to take into consideration whenever you do something, and that...

A lot of people think that every relationship has arguments, even worse, they should have arguments! Now, I understand that not having a single problem might be a sign of a secretive relationship, but that isn't always the case. However, most people do argue, mostly because we're humans and we don't like to change our mind. And that would be all okay, but unfortunately, we aren't taught how to do so, in a respectful way. Which is actually the most important part, as simple manners can change the outcome of the argument. So, how do should we fight? No shouting Some people use their loudness as a weapon, some use the absence of it. Either way, a fight is only fair when both parties keep their voice to a normal level. Also, this helps you stay calm, saving both of you a lot of stress and anger. Keep slurs out of it This one is obvious. No matter what happens, try to avoid calling each other things. It will be damaging in both the short and long run. Let...

We've been told to listen to our mothers from a very young age, because mother knows best. Well, once we start thinking for ourselves it becomes quite obvious, that the saying isn't a complete truth. "I'm your mother, I know what's best for you." "I have lived way longer than you, I know better." "Trust me, I only want the best for you, this is why you need to do this." How many times have we heard this? I'd say way too many. Being a mother basically means being morally untouchable, like an angel. Although, it is for a good reason. Mothers are known for their need to keep their child safe, and to keep them happy at all times. And they really do intend to do that, don't get me wrong! But sometimes this either goes overboard, or the mother doesn't really know what keeps their child in a positive mental and physical state. This doesn't mean that they're neglectful or bad moms, they just need a little guidanc...

The main problem with people is that they don't like to admit their faults. This is especially true for women. And this is only a minor problem, as long as the person isn't in a relationship. Then, you need to take steps to prevent it. "Egotism is the anesthetic which nature gives us to deaden the pain of being a fool." -Dr. Herbert Shofield I've been "working" on 7Cups for the past few weeks and I've worked with more than 50 people up until now. Most of them had relationship problems. I can't (and truthfully I don't want to) show examples, as these messages were private. I realized something in these short few weeks. Most women tend to overlook their own problems and focus on their partners'. We have a weird egocentric view on life, where we can't do anything wrong and most should revolve around us. And that's completely okay, but you need to take a few steps to stop it from damaging other things and people...

Dear mothers, Before you get defensive or even aggressive towards me, because you think I'm judging you, let me tell you something. I'm a teen girl, and I only want to help, as sometimes you don't handle situations well which involve your daughters. So before you think that I'm calling you a bad mother, reevaluate what you're actually mad about, then tell me. Your opinion matters, I'm just stating the basics. So, teen girls, a pretty rough topic, we're the worst kinds of people, ranging from quiet nerds to raging alcoholics and party people. It's hard to pinpoint what each girl needs, but what I can tell you is what they really need at home and what kind of support they want from you. Let's start off by clarifying something. Most of you act like you don't want us to grow up. And that is seriously degrading, because you still treat us like little children. Which brings us to the first point. We're still little, precious bab...

Many women struggle with keeping their reactions realistic when it comes to their partner's actions. Most men would say that this is the most annoying part of dating their significant other, the fact that they blow everything out of proportion and overreact to everything. Although, it's not just women who do this, we have to admit, we're the majority. There's nothing wrong with it, we're emotional people, but if we want to keep a healthy relationship going, then we need to address this problem and try to make ourselves better. Because let's be honest, it's childish. If you don't know if this is what you're struggling with, then let me give you an example. Your partner says something, maybe the statement they made was rude or their tone of voice was off. It makes you explode. Maybe you had a crappy day, maybe there was nothing wrong before this, but for some reason you feel as if this was over the line. You don't listen, you don't ac...

A diary is a way to log your life. What you do, what you think or what you plan on doing. Basically anything that's connected to you. A lot of people write diaries as a form of coping with life, to pass time or to log their activities. But it's always done individually. We see diary writing as a great way to help ourselves, so, why don't we do the same, but with out significant other? Studies have shown that writing a diary can increase performance when it comes to your life goals, which is insanely helpful, especially when they would be very hard to achieve. So, why not try to use it in a relationship? What should you write in your couple's diary? Anything and everything you did that day Things you appreciated about your partner Things that made you unhappy Things that annoyed you Plans you made For the sake of this post, we did this for a week, so I could share the results with you. So, what did we learn? Spending time together By writing an e...

You thought this blog was only about romantic relationships? Well, it would be, but since I'm a teen, no way. Also, this post is applicable to fathers as well, but in my case it's a mother, so yeah. There's one thing in common in all people. We all have a mother. And as parents, they tend to be very biased and unreasonable. Not all the time, but it happens every now and then. You can't just let go of these situations, as it's unavoidable. Story time: Okay, you all knew this was coming, I live alone with my mom as a 17 year old, what could go wrong?!  The answer is: everything. But for the sake of this post, I'll tell you the example that is still ongoing. On Thursday my mother told me to stay at home and Friday so  I can study and clean. Which I did immediately after coming back. So I asked if I could go over to my boyfriend's house to sleep over. (That's what I do every Friday, mind you, this was not a special occasion.) To which she ...

Ah, yes. The silent treatment, we're all too familiar with it, whether we gave or received it. It's a form of punishment, but one that won't achieve much. Let's talk about why it's bad for your relationship. First of all, it's based on not communicating, which is already an awful start, because we know that talking about problems is the key to solving them. Not saying anything at all... Well, it makes it hard for two people to come to an agreement. It makes the argument longer than it already should be and both halves will end up feeling worse and worse by each second that passes. And the worst? If you haven't been on the receiving end of this, you don't know how bad it feels. You can't imagine the actual panic that sets in, but let me try to paint the picture in your head: Your partner refuses to talk to you, even after you've apologized a thousand times. You desperately try to make them say something, even if it's just one word. ...

So far, I've talked about love letters in several posts and it has a serious reason: it's too rare. It's literally one of the simplest ways you can show your love, while also being really effective. For some reason, people think this is cheesy, it's overdone, movies and books regularly choose this type of thing to express romantic feelings. Well, let me tell you something: in the real world barely anyone gives love letters anymore. Quite sad, really. At this point you might be thinking about actually writing one. That's awesome, I support it all the way, go ahead! your partner will appreciate it a lot more than any other object, as this one says: "I didn't just think of you for a second to buy something, but I spent a lot of time on expressing my emotions towards you." So, what do you need? Grab yourself a laptop or computer, write the draft. Then, depending on your taste, you can either print it, or write it down by hand. If you choos...

LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) are becoming more and more common in today's society. This is (obviously) because of the internet, and the fact that people are less likely to be reserved while talking to people online. This creates several problems, but more on that later. Although, there are still situations in which the partners get separated by distance (and not because of the internet). These occurrences are a tiny bit easier to deal with, but still heartbreaking to the couple. Thankfully, whenever this happens, the two halves are usually able to make things work, as they had already known each other before they started dating. So, what do you need to know? In my experience, it doesn't take much more dedication and effort to make a long distance relationship work, than a normal one. It still requires loyalty, time and energy, the main difference is the physical intimacy, which is impossible to replace. The lack of touch is the main cause of the end of t...

There are times when you might feel like your relationship is not the same anymore and the spark is gone. I know this all too well, so don't be worried if this is the case, it happens to even the best of us. There are remedies for it and they can do wonders. Maybe the bond between you two will be even better after it. After all, you can always reheat a relationship after it has gone cold. But first of all, you need to decide what you want to do. Some people simply decide to break it off at this point, not realizing that this is the part where relationships become stronger. I advise you to communicate and say how you feel about the situation, although this might make your partner feel afraid about the future of you two. In this case you need to be outright and say your intentions.  Unfortunately, when this fading happens there's not much you can do and communication is the most effective way to deal with it. But at this point I have to let go of your hand, so ...

At this point in your relationship everything is perfect and pink. Which is why it's easy to get lost in it and be disappointed later on, because "the spark disappeared". You need to see things clearly when you begin dating and think rationally. But, mainly, you need to enjoy yourself, while dating. I might've come off as a strategist, talking about the matter, but the main point of dating is to get to know another human being that you may want to spend your entire life with. Experiment and learn your own ways. 1. Modesty This is a key point in this phase. Cover yourself a little too much, leave something for the imagination. It grabs the attention of your partner more and they won't focus on your cleavage instead of talking with you. Also, later on you will see every single inch of the other person, so keep the modesty as long as you can. Curiosity is your power. 2. Love letters I don't get why people don't do this anymore. It...

We know, looks aren't everything. But what you need to admit is that they are the first thing that anyone else sees and that it gives the first impression. Which is why you need some trips and tricks to appear more attractive than you actually might be, to seduce everyone coming your way. Or just your sweetheart, that's even better. The thing is: none of these will ever work if you don't rock it. So if you go out there, be as confident as you can be. It will be one of your best qualities, as it already gives a really good first impression of you. Now let's head on to those tips. Look healthy There's no need to be a size zero. You don't need abs either. What matters most is how healthy you look. The human brain is wired to find mates who are healthier more attractive, as they are able to produce better offspring. But what does healthy look like? There isn't a definitive way for it, but my main advice for it is to be proportionate. This...

We've all been in the friendzone, it's a cruel place for nice people. When you get here you usually feel like your crush's therapist or relationship counselor, because they always talk to you about their problems. The bad part about it: it's intentional. They keep you around because they like the looks and that someone listens to them no matter what. So ladies, try to realize if you're actually just a backup plan. Spend 2019 with those who you love and who reciprocate this feeling. Don't waste your time on men who don't deserve you and don't even make an effort for your relationship. Let this year be good to you and avoid any people who do these following things as they might affect your life and mentality in a very negative way. Last second He always calls or texts you at the last minute before he plans to meet. For example, it's Friday night, you already have a program when he messages you that he currently doesn't have anything to ...