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Dear mothers,
Before you get defensive or even aggressive towards me, because you think I'm judging you, let me tell you something. I'm a teen girl, and I only want to help, as sometimes you don't handle situations well which involve your daughters. So before you think that I'm calling you a bad mother, reevaluate what you're actually mad about, then tell me. Your opinion matters, I'm just stating the basics.
So, teen girls, a pretty rough topic, we're the worst kinds of people, ranging from quiet nerds to raging alcoholics and party people. It's hard to pinpoint what each girl needs, but what I can tell you is what they really need at home and what kind of support they want from you.
Let's start off by clarifying something. Most of you act like you don't want us to grow up. And that is seriously degrading, because you still treat us like little children. Which brings us to the first point.
We're still little, precious babies for you
No, your 15 year old daughter is not a child anymore and shouldn't be treated as such. You need to slowly start giving us responsibility over things and giving us more freedom, because you don't want a childish, irresponsible girl who can't even do chores when they're already 20.
Sudden expectation changes
Now, this is still connected to the fact that you treat us like kids. But this one occurs around 16-17 years old. Suddenly you don't want us to be kids and you throw any kind of responsibility in our face, like that's normal. Which is why I phrased it "slowly giving us responsibility". You can't expect us to go from little child to adult in a couple of months. This should be a process.
Privacy
Most of this is obvious, don't go through our phone, knock on the door before you come in and, for the love of god, please don't read our diary. These are the top 3 sins you can commit against your daughter when it comes to privacy, but there are many more. Like not trying to pressure us into telling you something.
Learn to accept no for an answer
Because sometimes we just don't want to talk to you about something. Maybe we don't want to cry our eyes out in front of you because you want me to talk about my breakup. Maybe we don't want to tell you about our crush because we know that you would mishandle that information.
Accepting 'no' for an answer might be hard for you, and I can understand that. It's difficult to know that something might be up with your child, but they will tell you once they are ready.
Want to know how my mother went from awful and nosey (or at least my thoughts about her)? It was one simple dialogue that went down between us.
Mom: What's wrong?
Me: I don't want to talk about it.
Mom: Okay, come tell me once you wanna talk about it.
And it's literally that easy. You don't need to read hundreds of books about parenting, all you need to do is assure them that you're there. They are supported and loved and you'll welcome them with open arms when they finally open up. Because trust me, sometimes it's really hard to open up.
Let us out
We won't run head first into a gang, nor will we start doing drugs. If you let us go out with our friends to have fun we won't end up doing something too stupid. But locking us up, afraid that we'll get in trouble is never a good idea. Do you know what kind of parents raise the best liars and manipulators? Strict ones.
Give us some respect
I get it, we're kids, we do as we're told or at least we'll try... But would you listen to someone who constantly disrespects you? Shouting at us won't help. Cussing us out won't help. And this goes for arguments as well. Treating us like a kid and acting like our opinions and wants don't matter will only turn us rebellious. And I'm sure you wouldn't want to deal with that.
School educates us, but not enough
This includes life lessons. Teach us things. Cooking, effective cleaning, sex ed.
Cooking is a useful hobby. Your daughter will have to cook for herself, she will have to cook for her partner, maybe her children. She can even make money with it. (Also, it's becoming increasingly attractive if a woman can cook well.)
Cleaning is another story. We hate it, our hands smell like disinfectant or a weird lemon-ish scent and our skin feels weird afterwards. So help us. Give us tips, how we could finish faster or how we could eliminate these kinds of problems.
And finally... Sex education. It's going to be an awkward discussion, but you need to have it, because in school all we hear is that it's not that great, it's dangerous, how unwanted pregnancy should be our greatest fear. Teach her that this isn't necessarily true.
School educates us, but not enough
This includes life lessons. Teach us things. Cooking, effective cleaning, sex ed.
Cooking is a useful hobby. Your daughter will have to cook for herself, she will have to cook for her partner, maybe her children. She can even make money with it. (Also, it's becoming increasingly attractive if a woman can cook well.)
Cleaning is another story. We hate it, our hands smell like disinfectant or a weird lemon-ish scent and our skin feels weird afterwards. So help us. Give us tips, how we could finish faster or how we could eliminate these kinds of problems.
And finally... Sex education. It's going to be an awkward discussion, but you need to have it, because in school all we hear is that it's not that great, it's dangerous, how unwanted pregnancy should be our greatest fear. Teach her that this isn't necessarily true.
So, girls, did I miss something? What else is there that we need?
Mothers, what's your opinion on this matter? Was one of these something you could do better at?
Answer these in the comments down in the comments or tweet at me.
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