How To Relationship 101

The simplest way to find out your true intentions when starting a relationship is looking at the things that happened when you were happy. Yeah, I know, when I tried figuring these kinds of things first I was confused too and when this came to mind I was just like... Duh? Family This is usually the most common reason for people in their thirties to get into a relationship and quite honestly, the most logical. The ones who want a stable and reliable partner are also the ones who view family as a core part of a person's life, require a good amount of attention and are very likely caring. (Pro tip: they are the most ideal people to marry if you plan on having kids.) How you know this is what you want: You put stability first (in every aspect) and are not afraid to express that. You plan on getting into a long-term relationship each time you go on a date (you don't expect to, you just like to know how a partner would work out in a few years.) The moment: Y

If you feel distant from your partner and less intimate, then it's likely because you don't spice things up (not just in the bedroom, generally). The best and easiest way to solve this is by using the good old method of flirting. Be honest, when did you last try flirting with your partner? Well, I have no clue what your answer was, but I'm going to guess that it was a long time ago. Or you weren't thinking about actual flirting. 'Cause let's be honest, chilling together or going out on a date doesn't necessarily include actual  flirting. First of all, understand that it's one of the core elements in a relationship. It's required to keep the love going, have intimacy and it's also really great way of having fun when everything else fails. And yes, you could do all of that in a different way, but why would you? The thing is: it's the most effective way to heal a worn out relationship. Your partner will feel appreciated again, they w

Enduring the distance between you and your partner can be an excruciating experience, so I brought you a couple of apps that might rescue you from some awful aspects of it. Between With Between you can have a private chatroom, expressive stickers and photo albums. And all of it is going to be saved, so you don't need to worry about getting a new phone and losing all of your memorable moments and conversations. But, most importantly, you can set events (for an anniversary, birthday, whatever) and the app will remind you when you tell it to. And the best part? You can create an event just for one of you, thus telling your partner when you're not available. Gaze When the usual "3, 2, 1, GO!" method fails, Gaze will come to rescue you. If you want to watch a movie with your loved one then all you need to do is share a link with them and you will be able to watch whatever you want. This is an excellent idea if you two can't find games to

One of the main goals of a relationship should be growing. Whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually, your partner needs to encourage your growth and vice versa. Why else would you have someone else constantly around you? Most people forget this aspect in a relationship and this is why long lasting bonds aren't as healthy nowadays. So, if you don't want this to happen to you too, then consider following these pieces of advice. First of all, you need to set a realistic goal you want to reach together. Now, this might not be the same for the two of you, but it should be on the same topic (eating, exercising or learning). This should be achievable within the first two weeks of your journey and in an ideal situation you should be constantly motivated by your progress. In this phase you won't need to rely on your partner as much as in the third week, as that will be the hardest. You will want to give up and without enough discipline you will slowly let go o

Holding hands is the first thing that can tell you whether two people are together or not. But besides identifying these things, it can tell a lot more. So if you have a significant other or a best friend buckle up and analyze your relationship with them just by reading a couple of paragraphs. Regular hand holding This is the most common way to hold hands. Your relationship isn't based on passion, but unconditional love and caring. If you hold hands like this then you're likely very affectionate, but you tend to keep things to a minimum. Holding pinkies It's quite uncommon for people to hold hands this way, but it's a special thing nonetheless. These people value and respect their partners, they give enough freedom and independence to each other, thus creating a healthy and unique relationship. Although, this can be a gateway to not holding hands, which can signify some trouble in the relationship or a rough phase. Interlocked

We all fear one thing in our relationships: betrayal. Emotional and physical. It doesn't matter if you're the jealous type or not, this slight distrust will always be deep within your heart. Rightfully so, we don't want to waste months or years on someone so worthless. And that is the exact reason why I need to warn all of you about these telltale signs. Here's how to know he's cheating. 1. Hiding things The first and most obvious thing you will notice is that your partner will suddenly change his privacy needs. He won't leave his phone around you, he will begin hiding it if he gets a message and most importantly: you will be constantly called jealous if you call him out on it. The latter is really important. He will turn everything on you and he will try to make you the one to blame. 2. Accusing you of cheating As weird as it sounds, a cheater will always feel like he's being betrayed too. He will notice the patterns that he h

Whenever you're trying to stick to some kind of behavior or activity there are two ways to go about it. The most common is motivating yourself, but a lot of people think that discipline is better in the long run. So whether you're exercising, dieting or maintaining some kind of relationship, you will need to choose one or the other. Motivation Pros: You will feel like you're able to do anything Easy to achieve (if you have a proper source) Amazing for one-time things Gives you energy Cons: Will disappear if you fail several times Hard to maintain You won't have it on bad days Generally unreliable You will run out of it eventually Discipline Pros: Sticks with you for a lifetime Helps build your own discipline (it doesn't just help with whatever you're trying to do) Doesn't limit you if you fail Will help you through a ton of things Cons: Hard to achieve Requires commitment So, what do we know now

It's become quite normal for people to think that being spontaneous is equal to being a good romantic partner. For the sole reason of being interesting. We're not here to debate it, although I am quite against the idea of spontaneity being the key. Instead, let's talk about how you should do it. First, of all, let's clear something up. Being spontaneous does not equal being unpredictable.  Do not become the latter just because you want to seem interesting, it is not a good trait to have in a relationship. Your partner wants you to be reliable and trustworthy, so please, do not confuse these two. Also, don't take everything too seriously, I'm just stating whatever seems to be working when it comes to spontaneity. Now let's get onto the Dos and Don'ts. Do Plan ahead Whatever you do should only seem random to your partner, it's much better to have things planned and knowing what comes after what. This is especially true if you're

We all have rough patches and they can last for way too long. Days, weeks, or even months. It exhausts us just enough so that we will want to give up. We will only focus on the pain and sadness. And it will ruin us. So let me help you through the desperation and lead you towards some hope. Remember the time you met? How you kinda had a thing for him but wasn't sure? Close your eyes and live through those moments again. See them for the first time again. Then progress, think about when you first started dating, how your first kiss went, laugh if it was awful and smile if it was great and full of passion. Let yourself feel their lips for the first time again. Remember all those first times and really think through them. All the things that made you attracted to your partner, every aspect that actually made you stay with them in the first place. Even through tough times. Now remember the first time you had a disagreement. How did you solve it? How did you feel

Sharing your private space with your significant other is a big step, but it's even a bigger one if the two private spaces become one. And so, it requires a lot of consideration and a mutual agreement. It's a new phase and so, a whole new part of your life. But it's more difficult than you would first think. Living in the same space isn't easy. It takes a lot of cooperation and work, and sometimes you will find yourself thinking whether it was worth it or not. I mean, it definitely was, it's just not as simple as you thought it would be. So let's review what you can do before you rush into such a thing. How much time do you spend together? If you're together all day and spend every waking moment together, it won't make much of a difference. On the other hand, there are couples who try to escape the struggles of long distance relationships by moving in together. These are the people who spend 10-15 hours together every month. Or even less. In

A lot of people think that every relationship has arguments, even worse, they should have arguments! Now, I understand that not having a single problem might be a sign of a secretive relationship, but that isn't always the case. However, most people do argue, mostly because we're humans and we don't like to change our mind. And that would be all okay, but unfortunately, we aren't taught how to do so, in a respectful way. Which is actually the most important part, as simple manners can change the outcome of the argument. So, how do should we fight? No shouting Some people use their loudness as a weapon, some use the absence of it. Either way, a fight is only fair when both parties keep their voice to a normal level. Also, this helps you stay calm, saving both of you a lot of stress and anger. Keep slurs out of it This one is obvious. No matter what happens, try to avoid calling each other things. It will be damaging in both the short and long run. Let

You're over the moon already, soon it's going to be your big day, the least of your problems should be the music. But it's one of the most important parts, as it will set the mood and will most definitely lighten up every single one of your guests. So let me give you a couple of ideas. 1. Sugar - Bruno Mars 2. First Day Of My Life - Bright Eyes 3. Better Together - Jack Johnson 4. Love Never Fails - Brandon Heath 5. Better Today - Coffey Anderson 6. Make Me Whole - Amel Larrieux 7. No One's Gonna Love You - Band of Horses 8. You & I - Ingrid Michaelson 9. The Wedding Song - Angus & Julia Stone 10. All I want Is You - U2 11. Never Quit Loving You - Jill Barber 12. I Was Made For You - She & Him 13. Making Memories Of Us - Keith Urban 14. Bloom - The Paper Kites 15. Perfect For Me - Ron Pope 16. Greatest Day - Take That 17. Be Okay - Oh Honey 18. The Sweetest Love -

The main problem with people is that they don't like to admit their faults. This is especially true for women. And this is only a minor problem, as long as the person isn't in a relationship. Then, you need to take steps to prevent it. "Egotism is the anesthetic which nature gives us to deaden the pain of being a fool." -Dr. Herbert Shofield I've been "working" on 7Cups for the past few weeks and I've worked with more than 50 people up until now. Most of them had relationship problems. I can't (and truthfully I don't want to) show examples, as these messages were private. I realized something in these short few weeks. Most women tend to overlook their own problems and focus on their partners'. We have a weird egocentric view on life, where we can't do anything wrong and most should revolve around us. And that's completely okay, but you need to take a few steps to stop it from damaging other things and people

Many women struggle with keeping their reactions realistic when it comes to their partner's actions. Most men would say that this is the most annoying part of dating their significant other, the fact that they blow everything out of proportion and overreact to everything. Although, it's not just women who do this, we have to admit, we're the majority. There's nothing wrong with it, we're emotional people, but if we want to keep a healthy relationship going, then we need to address this problem and try to make ourselves better. Because let's be honest, it's childish. If you don't know if this is what you're struggling with, then let me give you an example. Your partner says something, maybe the statement they made was rude or their tone of voice was off. It makes you explode. Maybe you had a crappy day, maybe there was nothing wrong before this, but for some reason you feel as if this was over the line. You don't listen, you don't ac

A diary is a way to log your life. What you do, what you think or what you plan on doing. Basically anything that's connected to you. A lot of people write diaries as a form of coping with life, to pass time or to log their activities. But it's always done individually. We see diary writing as a great way to help ourselves, so, why don't we do the same, but with out significant other? Studies have shown that writing a diary can increase performance when it comes to your life goals, which is insanely helpful, especially when they would be very hard to achieve. So, why not try to use it in a relationship? What should you write in your couple's diary? Anything and everything you did that day Things you appreciated about your partner Things that made you unhappy Things that annoyed you Plans you made For the sake of this post, we did this for a week, so I could share the results with you. So, what did we learn? Spending time together By writing an e

Valentine's Day is right around the corner and some people have a hard time choosing a nice way to celebrate it. The ideas below were put together according to how I see this day. To celebrate every kind of love, not just the one in romantic relationships. Going to a restaurant It's the old fashioned way, but still a nice thing. It allows you to talk and bond with each other. Or if that doesn't seem to be working, then you can start trying other food. (Or even challenge each other to try new meals.) Going to the gym I, myself, love working out. So do most people, just not at a high intensity. It gives you a dopamine burst, causing you to be happier. Not to mention: exercise makes you healthier, so this shouldn't be an activity only on this special day. Painting together Everyone has an artistic side. Well... Even if not, then it can still be fun to smear a canvas with bright colors, still making memories as you're spending time together.

Some couples like to show off how long they've been together. Rightfully so, as most of us are very proud to be with our partner and would like the whole wide world to know that. So I have the best idea, if you want all your friends to get jealous of your cute relationship. Beware though, it needs a lot of patience! The idea is simple: show the time that has passed in your pictures. The easiest way to do it is to take the same picture in the same place, but in different seasons or different parts of the day. But of course, that's not all that exciting, so instead, you can take these pictures on holidays, wearing matching outfits which are relevant to the event. Or you can go all out and take a photo every single day for an entire year and make it into a short animation by moving a little bit every day. You get the idea, now all you need to do is make up your own way to do it and start photographing! So, what do you think? Will you use this later on? Tell me

Ah, yes. The silent treatment, we're all too familiar with it, whether we gave or received it. It's a form of punishment, but one that won't achieve much. Let's talk about why it's bad for your relationship. First of all, it's based on not communicating, which is already an awful start, because we know that talking about problems is the key to solving them. Not saying anything at all... Well, it makes it hard for two people to come to an agreement. It makes the argument longer than it already should be and both halves will end up feeling worse and worse by each second that passes. And the worst? If you haven't been on the receiving end of this, you don't know how bad it feels. You can't imagine the actual panic that sets in, but let me try to paint the picture in your head: Your partner refuses to talk to you, even after you've apologized a thousand times. You desperately try to make them say something, even if it's just one word.

My opinion changes as often as I become single or get into a relationship. I'm sure I don't need to say why. But one thing always stays the same: Why is it obligatory for couples to love each other even more on this day? For some weird reason, this phenomena is completely normal in today's society, even if the certain pair are in the middle of a huge argument. As soon at the 14th of February hits, suddenly there are no more problems, no more hate, everybody loves each other and chocolate rains down on every happy couple. But it ends like the magic on Cinderella, at midnight, when the date changes to the 15th or February everything goes back to normal. The fights continue and the happiness wears off. But I still believe that Valentine's Day has to exist, just not the way it does currently. It should be about love, not the fake feelings we post on social media and the random gifts we take pictures of to show off to friends. It shouldn't be about singles feeling

Yes, by luxurious I mean expensive and shiny. It's not something we'd buy without a reason, mostly because they are quite costly. But every once in a while, we deserve this kind of luxury. So here's a quick message to the men reading this: this list might not fit your wallet, in which case you're still welcome to read through and choose something that you think your spouse would like and bookmark it. 1. Tiffany Co - Diamond Heart Necklace I'm going to be honest, this is my favorite one. For a reason. Not only does it look gorgeous, it's made out of 18K gold, which is quite impressive, I'd say. It makes an amazing accessory to any event and the choice of your makeup will barely matter, as anything is a great choice next to it. Personally,    I find it a bit pricey, but it really does seem to be worth it, truly an exceptional necklace. 2. Chimento - Diamond Eternity White Gold Ring I haven't seen anything this beautiful in a good