How To Relationship 101

You guys... I'm done. I really am. But before I go on a small rant let me tell you about the true nature of this saying. Originally it went like this: “ The  blood of the covenant is thicker  than the water of the womb. ” Sounds weird like this, doesn't it? But yes, it doesn't raise the concept of a family on a pedestal, instead talks about the importance of bonds formed in battle. Today we use it fairly often and it's getting on my nerves. Want to know why? Because parents use this as a way to justify bullying and abuse in the family. He's only play fighting, a few bruises won't be the end of the world. She doesn't seriously think you're a moron, just because she calls you by this name every time she talks to you. Do you not understand jokes? We didn't mean it, even though we've said X a thousand times. I'm so fed up with people letting their children hurt each other physically/mentally, just because they...

One of the most difficult problems in parenting is teaching a child how and why they should respect others. It's crucial, as this is becoming a major inconvenience in schools, where children don't recognize the authoritarian figure. So, how should you teach your child about respect? First of all, what do you consider respectful behavior? It can be anything from everyday politeness to unconventional courtesy. But in general, it includes: Letting others speak without interrupting them Paying attention Greeting them first Following orders without whining Just generally being polite Of course, respect isn't all black and white, sometimes you need to tune it down or up, which you need to explain. Because of this, there are several things they need to take into consideration. The main ones: age, gender, authority. You should already know how this works, but just in case, proper etiquette dictates that: The younger ones respect the elders. Those of...

The main reason children can be considered annoying is the way they express themselves: obnoxiously. Kids don't yet understand that sometimes they are not the priority, especially if they are interrupting a conversation which is more important than the random things they have to say. Because let's admit, kids usually don't tell us things that can't be missed. But the thing is, they do have to say it and we have to give them time to talk. But what if we're already doing something and can't deal with it right now? This problem occurs more often than it should, as there's a quick and easy way to fix it, You might have already heard about a small success story where a mother taught her son to hold her wrist if he has something to say and shouldn't interrupt. In this case, the mother put her hand on her child's, thus acknowledging their desire to express themselves. Once the activity that's more important is over, the mother can tur...

Being good at managing finances is an important skill that all children should learn. This can be anything from a simple allowance or building credit (these are the two ends, both are crucial, but you should know what age is appropriate for starting it). So why do parents think this is a good mentality? "He will ask me for money if he needs it!" "She can just come to me if she wants to buy something, she doesn't need an allowance!" First of all, this kind of attitude makes your child completely dependent on you. (Not to mention the fact that they won't be able to buy something they're embarrassed about.) This creates a kind of mentality in them that they need to always reach out to you for help, thus making them less independent in every way possible. But that doesn't sound too bad, does it? Well, think about when your child grows up. Your 23 year old son is still asking you for money even though he has his own income. Your adu...

Whenever you're trying to stick to some kind of behavior or activity there are two ways to go about it. The most common is motivating yourself, but a lot of people think that discipline is better in the long run. So whether you're exercising, dieting or maintaining some kind of relationship, you will need to choose one or the other. Motivation Pros: You will feel like you're able to do anything Easy to achieve (if you have a proper source) Amazing for one-time things Gives you energy Cons: Will disappear if you fail several times Hard to maintain You won't have it on bad days Generally unreliable You will run out of it eventually Discipline Pros: Sticks with you for a lifetime Helps build your own discipline (it doesn't just help with whatever you're trying to do) Doesn't limit you if you fail Will help you through a ton of things Cons: Hard to achieve Requires commitment So, what do we know now...

"He's so advanced for his age!" "She's such a natural at math!" "I bet they will go far in life!" Have you heard these sentences about your child? Or anything similar? Then it's your job to read this and actually help them progress with their natural talent. Studying stimulates the brain, keeping your brain cells engaged, thus helping you avoid a lot of problems long term. Gifted children can have any talent, but that won't matter if they aren't using it. So the first thing you need to do is narrow down the possibilities, but the most common ones are: art, math, literature and language skills. Once you already know this is where the trouble begins. You have to encourage them and set up new challenges they can conquer. Otherwise they'll sit back and enjoy the fact that in that field they can do whatever they want because it's still going to e above average. Now, let's say your child is pretty go...

It's common to joke about moms who drink to bear with motherhood. These jokes can be funny, even the movies that are built around the phenomena can work. But there's the reality of it. The mothers who think casual alcoholism is okay, just because they have children. Beware: Rant ahead, don't take it personally if you're not one of these people. (I'm not talking about occasional drinkers.) Listen. I understand that raising kids is a hard job, I myself, was a problem child. Still am, actually. And so were my siblings. But even after raising 4 kids as a single, my mother never turned to drinking. Her opinion on alcohol is that it's an unnecessary drug, used only by weak-willed and irresponsible people. A bit harsh and a tiny bit too conservative, but understandable. And I grew up thinking the same. Now, I like drinking, I really do. From casual wine drinking to getting blackout drunk. I see why people get addicted to it and why people choose th...

The new parenting technique is all about making the child comfortable, confident and never letting them have self-esteem issues. This would all be fine, but one strange part of modern parenting is treating the child as an equal. Let's talk about why that shouldn't be a case. "Kids are like a mirror, what they see and hear they do. Be a good reflection for them." -K. Heath I've been reading a book about an efficient way of punishment. It's mostly about how parents mess up their children with giving them too much control, letting them lead the whole family and making the kid the boss in the house. (Beth A. Grosshans - Beyond Time Out, it's a great read, I highly suggest it.) So, let me give you an idea on what it's all about. The main thing: if you give a child too much power, they will be crushed under the weight of it. You need to remember to treat your child their age. Although, you can give them control in several ways whic...

Dear mothers, Before you get defensive or even aggressive towards me, because you think I'm judging you, let me tell you something. I'm a teen girl, and I only want to help, as sometimes you don't handle situations well which involve your daughters. So before you think that I'm calling you a bad mother, reevaluate what you're actually mad about, then tell me. Your opinion matters, I'm just stating the basics. So, teen girls, a pretty rough topic, we're the worst kinds of people, ranging from quiet nerds to raging alcoholics and party people. It's hard to pinpoint what each girl needs, but what I can tell you is what they really need at home and what kind of support they want from you. Let's start off by clarifying something. Most of you act like you don't want us to grow up. And that is seriously degrading, because you still treat us like little children. Which brings us to the first point. We're still little, precious bab...