Do You Have Overreaction Problems? Here's How To Overcome Them

Many women struggle with keeping their reactions realistic when it comes to their partner's actions. Most men would say that this is the most annoying part of dating their significant other, the fact that they blow everything out of proportion and overreact to everything.

Although, it's not just women who do this, we have to admit, we're the majority. There's nothing wrong with it, we're emotional people, but if we want to keep a healthy relationship going, then we need to address this problem and try to make ourselves better. Because let's be honest, it's childish.

If you don't know if this is what you're struggling with, then let me give you an example.
Your partner says something, maybe the statement they made was rude or their tone of voice was off. It makes you explode. Maybe you had a crappy day, maybe there was nothing wrong before this, but for some reason you feel as if this was over the line. You don't listen, you don't accept any kind of explanation. And you end up giving them The Silent Treatment, or a piece of your mind.

I once saw a post about a woman asking for relationship advice, because she thought she found lipstick stains on his husband's clothes. They were quite obviously bleach stains. Everyone kept commenting that it just could not be lipstick. She didn't listen to over a hundred people who told her the same and still decided to go off on her husband. We later on learned that it was, in fact, a beach stain, because the washer that their workplace used was on its' way to being completely ruined.

When you overreact you lose control of your emotions and end up hurting your significant other and yourself as well. And as women, this is way too common among us. Which is why we need to control it.

I have found a few ways that might work for you.

Shut up for a second
This is actually the most difficult (I know how bad the anger can get). But if you just keep your mouth shut for at least half a minute and listen to your partner, they might be able to calm you down.
This method takes a lot of practice, as part of overreacting is not being able to control yourself.

Time out
Have you noticed that after an argument you slowly calm down and regret things you said? Yeah, let's stop regretting things. If you can feel the oncoming storm ask for 5 minutes. Sit down and think. Ask yourself if this is really worth fighting over.

Don't be aggressive
It shouldn't be a legitimate fight between you two. Explain your problem, say why it is a problem and how it affects you. Ask your partner to do something you want when it comes to that issue, so you won't have this fight ever again.

Don't create strategies
Sometimes you have time before the fight actually starts, because you found something you didn't like and it made you mad. In this case, don't start thinking about what you're going to attack the other one with. And especially: don't bring up disagreements you've had in the past. Instead, focus on how you two could solve this problem.

Have a safe-word
I know, it sounds stupid. Safe-words are for bedroom activity, or that's what most people think.
If you two can agree on a word, so that it can remind both of you to be reasonable, then your disagreements will have a smaller negative effect on you. The main problem with overreacting is, that you don't know you're actually doing it, so having a reminder is a good starting point.

In conclusion, no matter how old you are, no matter your gender, you need to solve this problem if it arises in your relationship, because it's a deal breaker.

So, what do you think? Do you overreact sometimes? If so, how do you deal with it? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out the other posts about Breakup.