If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di...
For some people, it's easy to decide when it's time to break up... But for the rest of us...
Well, here's the quick guide if you don't know how to handle the end of the relationship. Because these aren't "just problems that can be easily solved". These are the dealbreakers.
1. You feel stuck
We all know that a partner should encourage growth in us. Mental, physical or even spiritual if that's your thing. It's why we look for a life-long companion, so we have someone to help us become better.
Once this element is gone... There's not much you can do.
2. You think of dating other people (seriously)
We all have an occasional thought about a random stranger passing by, or even someone closer to us. Although it doesn't matter who the subject is, it's never serious. We quickly forget about it and go on about our day.
But there are times when we become focused on one person. We daydream, we can't get them out of our heads. Suddenly everything seems like it's from a romance movie and we're seeing pink. At this point, we need to choose.
Leaving, or gathering up the energy and saying goodbye to those thoughts.
3. Your arguments stay unresolved
Fighting is a part of most relationships. It happens when two people haven't completely adjusted to one another, which is why it's a crucial part if the given people differ significantly.
But of course, this needs to be done in a healthy way. With a voice that's kept down and a calm manner. And most importantly: you need to reach a conclusion. Without the latter, there was no reason to begin the argument. The two of you always need to reach a middle ground, so you can keep this disagreement out of your relationship further on.
4. You have significantly different long-term plans
This really differs from couple to couple. But the main points that you should be agreed on are:
Nobody will change their mind about having kids just because their partner doesn't want to.
Nobody will give up their dream wedding just because their partner thinks marriage is meaningless.
Don't expect your loved one to change their mind about such an important thing, because it won't work. I know it's hard letting someone go once you're at the stage where you're actually discussing these things.
But it happens. And you need to know when to give up.
5. You don't feel heard
I truly believe that one of the worst feelings is being lonely. But that pain multiplies when you feel alone in your relationship.
When it seems like your partner listens, just doesn't take into account whatever you say.
When you feel like your opinion doesn't matter.
When it seems like your input isn't needed/wanted.
That's when you know your partner doesn't actually hear you. It's when they've left you alone in the relationship.
What do you think? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me!
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Once this element is gone... There's not much you can do.
2. You think of dating other people (seriously)
We all have an occasional thought about a random stranger passing by, or even someone closer to us. Although it doesn't matter who the subject is, it's never serious. We quickly forget about it and go on about our day.
But there are times when we become focused on one person. We daydream, we can't get them out of our heads. Suddenly everything seems like it's from a romance movie and we're seeing pink. At this point, we need to choose.
Leaving, or gathering up the energy and saying goodbye to those thoughts.
3. Your arguments stay unresolved
Fighting is a part of most relationships. It happens when two people haven't completely adjusted to one another, which is why it's a crucial part if the given people differ significantly.
But of course, this needs to be done in a healthy way. With a voice that's kept down and a calm manner. And most importantly: you need to reach a conclusion. Without the latter, there was no reason to begin the argument. The two of you always need to reach a middle ground, so you can keep this disagreement out of your relationship further on.
4. You have significantly different long-term plans
This really differs from couple to couple. But the main points that you should be agreed on are:
- Marriage
- Family
- Where you want to settle (country)
- Children (and how you raise them)
- Financials
Nobody will change their mind about having kids just because their partner doesn't want to.
Nobody will give up their dream wedding just because their partner thinks marriage is meaningless.
Don't expect your loved one to change their mind about such an important thing, because it won't work. I know it's hard letting someone go once you're at the stage where you're actually discussing these things.
But it happens. And you need to know when to give up.
5. You don't feel heard
I truly believe that one of the worst feelings is being lonely. But that pain multiplies when you feel alone in your relationship.
When it seems like your partner listens, just doesn't take into account whatever you say.
When you feel like your opinion doesn't matter.
When it seems like your input isn't needed/wanted.
That's when you know your partner doesn't actually hear you. It's when they've left you alone in the relationship.
What do you think? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me!
Or check out the other posts about Breakup.
I am sharing this testimony to partners suffering in their relationships because there is an enduring solution.
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