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Quick caution: this article is about guys who are under 30 (or are barely above it, you'll know the difference).
Ah, yes. The alpha male. Full of testosterone and charm. The person we imagine when someone says "dream guy" is close to an alpha male, this is a ripped bad-boy who is a bit dangerous, but not really. Who's dominant, but not too dominant for our likes. Who is ambitious but doesn't focus on their career. And of course, great in bed, gets all the ladies, but is still loyal.
Sorry to shatter the dreams, but unfortunately this doesn't exist. And even if it does, the chances of meeting this dream guy is not very realistic, instead, we get the alpha.
This phrase remained because of only one thing: it shows dominance. In today's society, this is basically everything. It determines your confidence, dating successes, maybe even your salary. But what an alpha male really offers is not even half as good as real dominance.
Let's start with the basics.
1. Toxic masculinity
This is mostly present in the jock type of guys, who started working out at age 14. Exercise warped their minds to think that they are better and stronger than anyone else, resulting in a person who lives by the "men don't cry" rule. They are usually emotionally unavailable, which can be a positive or negative trait, depends where you come from, but we all know that in the long run it's not a great thing. And trust me, it doesn't go away.
This type of toxic masculinity can also "gift" someone with sexism - and the absolute need to feel superior than the other sex. It might not even be that obvious at first, but later on you'll realize, and it'll hurt. A lot.
2. Irresponsibility
Alphas are usually outgoing. They are loud and always the center of attention. They party from the age of 14 to 26. And what happens when a person doesn't let go of their youth and wants to be free until they die? They become childish and irresponsible. If you're planning long term, you can even start practicing being a parent. On them.
In addition to this, they cannot fully commit to anything serious, making it hard to create a lasting relationship.
3. Attention
They are used to it. They need it. The worst part of an alpha is usually the fact that they can't handle if you're doing something else and can't pay attention to them. It's basically like having a child.
Also, if you don't give it to them, they will start looking for it somewhere else. Other places. Maybe in someone else's pants. They have a tendency to do so, they aren't called a "ladies' man" for nothing.
In conclusion:
Don't focus on alphas, seriously. They act dominant, but are actually unstable and can't stand if something doesn't go their way.
Just because someone is labelled as an alpha it doesn't mean that they're necessarily superior or any better than other guys. What you call a beta guy might even make a better partner in the long run.
What do you think about alphas? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out the other posts about Dating.
Let's start with the basics.
1. Toxic masculinity
This is mostly present in the jock type of guys, who started working out at age 14. Exercise warped their minds to think that they are better and stronger than anyone else, resulting in a person who lives by the "men don't cry" rule. They are usually emotionally unavailable, which can be a positive or negative trait, depends where you come from, but we all know that in the long run it's not a great thing. And trust me, it doesn't go away.
This type of toxic masculinity can also "gift" someone with sexism - and the absolute need to feel superior than the other sex. It might not even be that obvious at first, but later on you'll realize, and it'll hurt. A lot.
2. Irresponsibility
Alphas are usually outgoing. They are loud and always the center of attention. They party from the age of 14 to 26. And what happens when a person doesn't let go of their youth and wants to be free until they die? They become childish and irresponsible. If you're planning long term, you can even start practicing being a parent. On them.
In addition to this, they cannot fully commit to anything serious, making it hard to create a lasting relationship.
3. Attention
They are used to it. They need it. The worst part of an alpha is usually the fact that they can't handle if you're doing something else and can't pay attention to them. It's basically like having a child.
Also, if you don't give it to them, they will start looking for it somewhere else. Other places. Maybe in someone else's pants. They have a tendency to do so, they aren't called a "ladies' man" for nothing.
In conclusion:
Don't focus on alphas, seriously. They act dominant, but are actually unstable and can't stand if something doesn't go their way.
Just because someone is labelled as an alpha it doesn't mean that they're necessarily superior or any better than other guys. What you call a beta guy might even make a better partner in the long run.
What do you think about alphas? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out the other posts about Dating.
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