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Friends With Benefits: Is It Really Worth It?

If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di

Why Neglecting Your Man Is Hurting You

Ah, yes. The silent treatment, we're all too familiar with it, whether we gave or received it. It's a form of punishment, but one that won't achieve much. Let's talk about why it's bad for your relationship.



First of all, it's based on not communicating, which is already an awful start, because we know that talking about problems is the key to solving them. Not saying anything at all... Well, it makes it hard for two people to come to an agreement. It makes the argument longer than it already should be and both halves will end up feeling worse and worse by each second that passes.

And the worst? If you haven't been on the receiving end of this, you don't know how bad it feels. You can't imagine the actual panic that sets in, but let me try to paint the picture in your head: Your partner refuses to talk to you, even after you've apologized a thousand times. You desperately try to make them say something, even if it's just one word. It makes you start panicking. What could be going through their mind? You worry, they could even be thinking of breaking up. These will start running through your head: "Am I really this terrible?", "Was this the last straw?" and the worst, "Do I even deserve them?".

Not a good mindset, am I right? But unfortunately, many people have to suffer through this painful silence, as their partner just doesn't want to communicate with them, because they got too mad.

When I say painful, I mean it. Studies have shown that this type of treatment activates the part of your brain that is responsible for feeling actual physical damage. I'm not sure how you feel about this, but when I learned that this really does happen, I was mortified. This could be called abuse. Although, I know, we shouldn't be this sensitive, it's just a withdrawal of communication after all.

But I will certainly never want to give my boyfriend the silent treatment again. Not after I learned how devastating it can be for a relationship.

It's one thing that it basically inflicts physical pain to the receiver, but the mental part is quite obviously even worse. It destroys the intimacy in the relationship, rendering the two halves unable to talk their problems through, even when the silent treatment has ended. It reduced satisfaction about the relationship, which drags the partners towards a breakup.

Conclusion: communicate!

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Or check out the other posts about Communication.

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