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Friends With Benefits: Is It Really Worth It?

If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di

What You Need To Know About Long Distance Relationships

LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) are becoming more and more common in today's society. This is (obviously) because of the internet, and the fact that people are less likely to be reserved while talking to people online. This creates several problems, but more on that later.

Although, there are still situations in which the partners get separated by distance (and not because of the internet). These occurrences are a tiny bit easier to deal with, but still heartbreaking to the couple. Thankfully, whenever this happens, the two halves are usually able to make things work, as they had already known each other before they started dating.



So, what do you need to know?

In my experience, it doesn't take much more dedication and effort to make a long distance relationship work, than a normal one. It still requires loyalty, time and energy, the main difference is the physical intimacy, which is impossible to replace.
The lack of touch is the main cause of the end of these relationships, which is why you need to make up for it with other types of affection. This can be anything from talking for hours, sending gifts or watching movies together. But never forget to make time for them, even if it's just you two doing your own thing while having your webcam on.

Also, you absolutely have to visit each other once in a while. It helps build trust, you can catch up on missed hugs and kisses and most importantly: you can see each other face to face. Because pixels are one thing, but having them in front of you, seeing their blushed face when you first meet, finally being able to tell the exact color of their eyes is a whole other matter. If you haven't had an experience like that, just try imagining it.

Maybe it's been months since you've last seen them in person, but you're waiting at the bus station, counting down the seconds until the bus arrives. But it's late as always, so you become anxious, a little bit of doubt, mixed with excitement creeps onto you. Then there it is. The vehicle stops and slowly opens its doors and your favorite person on the whole planet jumps off it. They start running towards you to leap into your arms.
What a wonderful scenario, isn't it?

The main thing about LDRs, is that they require a lot more commitment. When you have an argument, it's much easier to dissociate yourself from the situation, thus creating a high chance for a disaster. If this ever happens, you will very likely hurt your partner and this can lead to a quick breakup. So avoid disagreements, or keep reminding yourself to be civil about it.

But what can these arguments be about? Jealousy and time. The thing you will fight about most often is how much time you can spend with the other and sometimes: why not more. You can't check on them every so often, neither can they, so one of you is bound to become jealous after some time. And sure enough: there's not much you can do about it, except spend more time with them.

This will lead to a decrease in your social life. But if you feel like it's worth it, then go through with it, no matter who supports you two.

In the end, ask yourself if this is what you want and need. If your love language is all about touch, then this might not be the thing for you. Sometimes, it's worse to fight for something that won't satisfy your needs, than to let go.


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