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The main problem with people is that they don't like to admit their faults. This is especially true for women. And this is only a minor problem, as long as the person isn't in a relationship. Then, you need to take steps to prevent it.
"Egotism is the anesthetic which nature gives us to deaden the pain of being a fool."
-Dr. Herbert Shofield
I've been "working" on 7Cups for the past few weeks and I've worked with more than 50 people up until now. Most of them had relationship problems. I can't (and truthfully I don't want to) show examples, as these messages were private.
I realized something in these short few weeks. Most women tend to overlook their own problems and focus on their partners'. We have a weird egocentric view on life, where we can't do anything wrong and most should revolve around us. And that's completely okay, but you need to take a few steps to stop it from damaging other things and people around you. Also, being that woman who think everything is about her is not a good thing.
First of all: accept that you are capable of making mistakes.
Our biggest problem is that we aren't able to this (usually). We go into arguments thinking that whatever's going on is everyone else's fault. Which is not true in most cases. We overreact, search for small errors and try to blow everything out of proportion, and if someone calls us out on it, then we get mad.
Once you admit to this, you're already on your way to taking out the vain part of your personality. Congratulations! The second hardest part is over, now comes the actual thing.
Analyze the actions you make while you're in your egotistical mindset. Is it overreaction? (If it is, then there's already a detailed post about it here.) Is it manipulation? Is it blaming? Whichever, identify it, then concentrate on solving that once single problem. (If there's more then decide which one you want to get rid of first.)
Ask your partner to help you with it, after all, you can't solve most of your social problems by yourself, and you don't have to either. So go up to your boyfriend/girlfriend and ask them if they think you should try changing an aspect of yourself and if so, which one. This will help to create a stronger bond between you two. Mostly because you push yourself to make the other one feel comfortable in a relationship.
Then, after you're done ask them to help. Whenever your egotistical side takes over, they should remind you that you don't want this to happen. Neither of you does. Calm yourself down and try to think rationally. "Is it rational that I'm doing this?" Is a good question to ask yourself.
Whatever the problem is, it's the responsibility of both of you to solve it. Google the matter, search for possible tips and tricks and try to eradicate these egotistical habits.
What do you think about these egotistical behaviors? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out the other posts about Communication.
First of all: accept that you are capable of making mistakes.
Our biggest problem is that we aren't able to this (usually). We go into arguments thinking that whatever's going on is everyone else's fault. Which is not true in most cases. We overreact, search for small errors and try to blow everything out of proportion, and if someone calls us out on it, then we get mad.
Once you admit to this, you're already on your way to taking out the vain part of your personality. Congratulations! The second hardest part is over, now comes the actual thing.
Analyze the actions you make while you're in your egotistical mindset. Is it overreaction? (If it is, then there's already a detailed post about it here.) Is it manipulation? Is it blaming? Whichever, identify it, then concentrate on solving that once single problem. (If there's more then decide which one you want to get rid of first.)
Ask your partner to help you with it, after all, you can't solve most of your social problems by yourself, and you don't have to either. So go up to your boyfriend/girlfriend and ask them if they think you should try changing an aspect of yourself and if so, which one. This will help to create a stronger bond between you two. Mostly because you push yourself to make the other one feel comfortable in a relationship.
Then, after you're done ask them to help. Whenever your egotistical side takes over, they should remind you that you don't want this to happen. Neither of you does. Calm yourself down and try to think rationally. "Is it rational that I'm doing this?" Is a good question to ask yourself.
Whatever the problem is, it's the responsibility of both of you to solve it. Google the matter, search for possible tips and tricks and try to eradicate these egotistical habits.
What do you think about these egotistical behaviors? Tell me in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out the other posts about Communication.
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