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It's common to joke about moms who drink to bear with motherhood. These jokes can be funny, even the movies that are built around the phenomena can work.
But there's the reality of it. The mothers who think casual alcoholism is okay, just because they have children.
Beware: Rant ahead, don't take it personally if you're not one of these people. (I'm not talking about occasional drinkers.)
Beware: Rant ahead, don't take it personally if you're not one of these people. (I'm not talking about occasional drinkers.)
Listen. I understand that raising kids is a hard job, I myself, was a problem child. Still am, actually. And so were my siblings. But even after raising 4 kids as a single, my mother never turned to drinking.
Her opinion on alcohol is that it's an unnecessary drug, used only by weak-willed and irresponsible people. A bit harsh and a tiny bit too conservative, but understandable. And I grew up thinking the same.
Now, I like drinking, I really do. From casual wine drinking to getting blackout drunk. I see why people get addicted to it and why people choose this method to escape reality. And I also know that people can take different levels of (mental and physical) pain. But what I absolutely cannot understand is why some people believe that parenting is so hard, alcoholism should be the solution.
Because, if you haven't guessed it yet: it isn't. Raising a child is a difficult thing, but you need to make the best of it.
And because you're a parent, you have to set a good example. If you drink every single night (even if you only get a little bit tipsy), you're showing that casual alcoholism is fine. You're constantly encouraging your poor kid to do such things.
And then you wonder why your child is problematic. You wonder why they drink regularly and why they don't see a problem with it. Actually, let me paint the picture I see in my head:
One night you are sitting in your living room, watching TV. You look at the clock, it will be past 3 a.m. and you slowly start to worry. Your teen son/daughter had said that they would be back by midnight, but you don't want to call, because they might be right around the corner or you'd ruin the fun by checking on them.
But you finally hear a noise from the front door. A couple of cracks, as your kid stabs their key into the doorknob several times, because they can't properly aim for the keyhole. You open it for them and they stumble in, almost falling a couple of times. They head straight to the toilet. When you go after them and try asking about what had happened, they just shoo you away while they are vomiting. And you don't persist.
You don't talk about it the next day, but they don't want to either.
And they aren't ashamed, they don't feel bad, instead, they are already planning which party they'll go to next.
Yes, personal experience, because I hear these types of conversations every single day.
Yes, because most of my classmates think that it's fun to get blackout drunk every weekend.
Yes, because I hear stories about moms who give their child something alcoholic, so they have someone to drink with.
So, if you really have the need to drink, then do it somewhere away from your child.
Sorry if I offend you with my opinion, because you like your wine way too much. But put down your damn glass and stop normalizing casual alcoholism while constantly whining about teens drinking too much. Now go be a parent and actually raise your child properly.
Rant over, tell me your opinion in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out other posts about Parenting.
Because, if you haven't guessed it yet: it isn't. Raising a child is a difficult thing, but you need to make the best of it.
And because you're a parent, you have to set a good example. If you drink every single night (even if you only get a little bit tipsy), you're showing that casual alcoholism is fine. You're constantly encouraging your poor kid to do such things.
And then you wonder why your child is problematic. You wonder why they drink regularly and why they don't see a problem with it. Actually, let me paint the picture I see in my head:
One night you are sitting in your living room, watching TV. You look at the clock, it will be past 3 a.m. and you slowly start to worry. Your teen son/daughter had said that they would be back by midnight, but you don't want to call, because they might be right around the corner or you'd ruin the fun by checking on them.
But you finally hear a noise from the front door. A couple of cracks, as your kid stabs their key into the doorknob several times, because they can't properly aim for the keyhole. You open it for them and they stumble in, almost falling a couple of times. They head straight to the toilet. When you go after them and try asking about what had happened, they just shoo you away while they are vomiting. And you don't persist.
You don't talk about it the next day, but they don't want to either.
And they aren't ashamed, they don't feel bad, instead, they are already planning which party they'll go to next.
Yes, personal experience, because I hear these types of conversations every single day.
Yes, because most of my classmates think that it's fun to get blackout drunk every weekend.
Yes, because I hear stories about moms who give their child something alcoholic, so they have someone to drink with.
So, if you really have the need to drink, then do it somewhere away from your child.
Sorry if I offend you with my opinion, because you like your wine way too much. But put down your damn glass and stop normalizing casual alcoholism while constantly whining about teens drinking too much. Now go be a parent and actually raise your child properly.
Rant over, tell me your opinion in the comments or tweet at me.
Or check out other posts about Parenting.
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