How To Relationship 101

If you are one of those people who likes to have fun without strings attached then you need to read this post. There's some crucial information right here and we will also talk about certain situations which you might need to know about. But even if you are just debating becoming friends with benefits with someone... You need to think about whether it's worth it or not. First of all, lot's look at the very obvious benefits when it comes to having someone that you can always hit up with a booty call. Pros For most people, it's the physical aspect. Orgasms are always nice. They make you stress-free and fill you up with happiness hormones that can have an effect on you for up to a couple of hours. How would you not want that all the time? Unfortunately, in most cases, only friends with benefits relationships are the only ones that can provide you with a lot of sex for a long period of time. If you get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend then it's much di

Everyone has to start somewhere, and the same goes for dating. Nobody is born with all the knowledge on how a relationship works, which is why we need to learn before we can succeed at keeping a partner we're happy with. So, here's what a newbie should know about dating. First of all, let's define what the dating phase is about. It's core purpose is getting to know one another with the intention of staying together long-term. It's about learning how the other person works and how they can fit into your life. Which is why a lot of people lie when they first begin dating. Because they think they're not good enough. One thing to keep in mind: if you're not looking for a one night stand, short term partner or an FWB, then you absolutely cannot lie during the dating phase . You shouldn't in other cases either, but this will screw you over big time if you're planning on staying with someone. You might think you're not good en

For some people, it's easy to decide when it's time to break up... But for the rest of us... Well, here's the quick guide if you don't know how to handle the end of the relationship. Because these aren't "just problems that can be easily solved". These are the dealbreakers. 1. You feel stuck We all know that a partner should encourage growth in us. Mental, physical or even spiritual if that's your thing. It's why we look for a life-long companion, so we have someone to help us become better. Once this element is gone... There's not much you can do. 2. You think of dating other people (seriously) We all have an occasional thought about a random stranger passing by, or even someone closer to us. Although it doesn't matter who the subject is, it's never serious. We quickly forget about it and go on about our day. But there are times when we become focused on one person. We daydream, we can't get them out of o

The simplest way to find out your true intentions when starting a relationship is looking at the things that happened when you were happy. Yeah, I know, when I tried figuring these kinds of things first I was confused too and when this came to mind I was just like... Duh? Family This is usually the most common reason for people in their thirties to get into a relationship and quite honestly, the most logical. The ones who want a stable and reliable partner are also the ones who view family as a core part of a person's life, require a good amount of attention and are very likely caring. (Pro tip: they are the most ideal people to marry if you plan on having kids.) How you know this is what you want: You put stability first (in every aspect) and are not afraid to express that. You plan on getting into a long-term relationship each time you go on a date (you don't expect to, you just like to know how a partner would work out in a few years.) The moment: Y

Are you kinda jealous? Have you had enough of the usual dating phase? Are you into more nerdy people? Then hear me out, because you may have the perfect guy/girl waiting for you just around the corner. We generally think of gamers as overweight anti-socials, when in reality, that stereotype is rarely ever true. The acne ridden, sweaty face you have in mind is more likely to be a justice warrior's that's currently white knighting on Twitter. (Ooops, might've been too specific.) The thing is: if we meet someone and this is one of the first traits we learn about them, then it usually becomes a deal breaker. But why is that? Mainly because of the stereotype. "He must be lazy." "She is probably sitting in front of the computer all day." "They don't have a life." I've heard all of these sentences as soon as someone mentioned that they like video games. An they're such BS. So let's address all

You guys... I'm done. I really am. But before I go on a small rant let me tell you about the true nature of this saying. Originally it went like this: “ The  blood of the covenant is thicker  than the water of the womb. ” Sounds weird like this, doesn't it? But yes, it doesn't raise the concept of a family on a pedestal, instead talks about the importance of bonds formed in battle. Today we use it fairly often and it's getting on my nerves. Want to know why? Because parents use this as a way to justify bullying and abuse in the family. He's only play fighting, a few bruises won't be the end of the world. She doesn't seriously think you're a moron, just because she calls you by this name every time she talks to you. Do you not understand jokes? We didn't mean it, even though we've said X a thousand times. I'm so fed up with people letting their children hurt each other physically/mentally, just because they

If you feel distant from your partner and less intimate, then it's likely because you don't spice things up (not just in the bedroom, generally). The best and easiest way to solve this is by using the good old method of flirting. Be honest, when did you last try flirting with your partner? Well, I have no clue what your answer was, but I'm going to guess that it was a long time ago. Or you weren't thinking about actual flirting. 'Cause let's be honest, chilling together or going out on a date doesn't necessarily include actual  flirting. First of all, understand that it's one of the core elements in a relationship. It's required to keep the love going, have intimacy and it's also really great way of having fun when everything else fails. And yes, you could do all of that in a different way, but why would you? The thing is: it's the most effective way to heal a worn out relationship. Your partner will feel appreciated again, they w

One of the most difficult problems in parenting is teaching a child how and why they should respect others. It's crucial, as this is becoming a major inconvenience in schools, where children don't recognize the authoritarian figure. So, how should you teach your child about respect? First of all, what do you consider respectful behavior? It can be anything from everyday politeness to unconventional courtesy. But in general, it includes: Letting others speak without interrupting them Paying attention Greeting them first Following orders without whining Just generally being polite Of course, respect isn't all black and white, sometimes you need to tune it down or up, which you need to explain. Because of this, there are several things they need to take into consideration. The main ones: age, gender, authority. You should already know how this works, but just in case, proper etiquette dictates that: The younger ones respect the elders. Those of

Enduring the distance between you and your partner can be an excruciating experience, so I brought you a couple of apps that might rescue you from some awful aspects of it. Between With Between you can have a private chatroom, expressive stickers and photo albums. And all of it is going to be saved, so you don't need to worry about getting a new phone and losing all of your memorable moments and conversations. But, most importantly, you can set events (for an anniversary, birthday, whatever) and the app will remind you when you tell it to. And the best part? You can create an event just for one of you, thus telling your partner when you're not available. Gaze When the usual "3, 2, 1, GO!" method fails, Gaze will come to rescue you. If you want to watch a movie with your loved one then all you need to do is share a link with them and you will be able to watch whatever you want. This is an excellent idea if you two can't find games to

The main reason children can be considered annoying is the way they express themselves: obnoxiously. Kids don't yet understand that sometimes they are not the priority, especially if they are interrupting a conversation which is more important than the random things they have to say. Because let's admit, kids usually don't tell us things that can't be missed. But the thing is, they do have to say it and we have to give them time to talk. But what if we're already doing something and can't deal with it right now? This problem occurs more often than it should, as there's a quick and easy way to fix it, You might have already heard about a small success story where a mother taught her son to hold her wrist if he has something to say and shouldn't interrupt. In this case, the mother put her hand on her child's, thus acknowledging their desire to express themselves. Once the activity that's more important is over, the mother can tur

One of the main goals of a relationship should be growing. Whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually, your partner needs to encourage your growth and vice versa. Why else would you have someone else constantly around you? Most people forget this aspect in a relationship and this is why long lasting bonds aren't as healthy nowadays. So, if you don't want this to happen to you too, then consider following these pieces of advice. First of all, you need to set a realistic goal you want to reach together. Now, this might not be the same for the two of you, but it should be on the same topic (eating, exercising or learning). This should be achievable within the first two weeks of your journey and in an ideal situation you should be constantly motivated by your progress. In this phase you won't need to rely on your partner as much as in the third week, as that will be the hardest. You will want to give up and without enough discipline you will slowly let go o

Holding hands is the first thing that can tell you whether two people are together or not. But besides identifying these things, it can tell a lot more. So if you have a significant other or a best friend buckle up and analyze your relationship with them just by reading a couple of paragraphs. Regular hand holding This is the most common way to hold hands. Your relationship isn't based on passion, but unconditional love and caring. If you hold hands like this then you're likely very affectionate, but you tend to keep things to a minimum. Holding pinkies It's quite uncommon for people to hold hands this way, but it's a special thing nonetheless. These people value and respect their partners, they give enough freedom and independence to each other, thus creating a healthy and unique relationship. Although, this can be a gateway to not holding hands, which can signify some trouble in the relationship or a rough phase. Interlocked

Every once in a while we aren't be able to decide where to go on a date, so I decided to bring you a game that will help you get over this small obstacle. The best part? All you need is a coin! The rules 1. Get dressed to go out and grab a coin. 2. Tell your partner to pick a number between 10-20 (you will need to flip the coin this many times,        so you can adjust if you want to. 3. Heads is right, tails is left. Every time you come to an intersection flip the coin. 4. Once you've reached the end stop. Look around and make a date right there on the spot. Sounds easy enough, right? Then get out there, it only takes a couple of minutes! Will you try this? Tell me in the comments or  tweet at me ! Or check out the other  Random Ideas .

We all fear one thing in our relationships: betrayal. Emotional and physical. It doesn't matter if you're the jealous type or not, this slight distrust will always be deep within your heart. Rightfully so, we don't want to waste months or years on someone so worthless. And that is the exact reason why I need to warn all of you about these telltale signs. Here's how to know he's cheating. 1. Hiding things The first and most obvious thing you will notice is that your partner will suddenly change his privacy needs. He won't leave his phone around you, he will begin hiding it if he gets a message and most importantly: you will be constantly called jealous if you call him out on it. The latter is really important. He will turn everything on you and he will try to make you the one to blame. 2. Accusing you of cheating As weird as it sounds, a cheater will always feel like he's being betrayed too. He will notice the patterns that he h

Being good at managing finances is an important skill that all children should learn. This can be anything from a simple allowance or building credit (these are the two ends, both are crucial, but you should know what age is appropriate for starting it). So why do parents think this is a good mentality? "He will ask me for money if he needs it!" "She can just come to me if she wants to buy something, she doesn't need an allowance!" First of all, this kind of attitude makes your child completely dependent on you. (Not to mention the fact that they won't be able to buy something they're embarrassed about.) This creates a kind of mentality in them that they need to always reach out to you for help, thus making them less independent in every way possible. But that doesn't sound too bad, does it? Well, think about when your child grows up. Your 23 year old son is still asking you for money even though he has his own income. Your adu

Whenever you're trying to stick to some kind of behavior or activity there are two ways to go about it. The most common is motivating yourself, but a lot of people think that discipline is better in the long run. So whether you're exercising, dieting or maintaining some kind of relationship, you will need to choose one or the other. Motivation Pros: You will feel like you're able to do anything Easy to achieve (if you have a proper source) Amazing for one-time things Gives you energy Cons: Will disappear if you fail several times Hard to maintain You won't have it on bad days Generally unreliable You will run out of it eventually Discipline Pros: Sticks with you for a lifetime Helps build your own discipline (it doesn't just help with whatever you're trying to do) Doesn't limit you if you fail Will help you through a ton of things Cons: Hard to achieve Requires commitment So, what do we know now

Well, I'm going to get a ton of hate for this... But there are times when you really shouldn't tell your parents something. Either because you don't want to, you can deal with it or it's just generally too embarrassing to talk about. So please, spare me all of the hateful comments saying: "Don't tell children to keep secrets from their parents!" Because I don't care that he/she has your blood, your kid can have secrets. They should be allowed to keep some things to themselves, because it's a healthy thing to actually have some privacy. Okay, let's clear something up first, your relationship with your parents should be the deciding factor for all this . If you feel like you can talk to them about whatever you're struggling with then go ahead. If you have a good relationship with them and you feel like they will understand then quit reading this and go. If you're conflicted then go ahead. Put your health first.  If

It's become quite normal for people to think that being spontaneous is equal to being a good romantic partner. For the sole reason of being interesting. We're not here to debate it, although I am quite against the idea of spontaneity being the key. Instead, let's talk about how you should do it. First, of all, let's clear something up. Being spontaneous does not equal being unpredictable.  Do not become the latter just because you want to seem interesting, it is not a good trait to have in a relationship. Your partner wants you to be reliable and trustworthy, so please, do not confuse these two. Also, don't take everything too seriously, I'm just stating whatever seems to be working when it comes to spontaneity. Now let's get onto the Dos and Don'ts. Do Plan ahead Whatever you do should only seem random to your partner, it's much better to have things planned and knowing what comes after what. This is especially true if you're

This post won't be a top list, advice or some kind of recommendation. Today I decided to tell you a story. The story that changed my life for the better and (probably) the best example of why you shouldn't always stick to the rules. Because they might be the only things keeping you from happiness. (Fair warning: I did stupid things, I'm glad I'm able to type this up, please don't actually be this dumb.) Rules only exist so we can break them. So, this story began on the 3rd of March, 2018. I was getting ready for a concert that I'd been waiting for for 2 months. I put on the most revealing pieces of clothing I could find (which meant leather shorts and a sleeveless shirt and of course, the necessary high heels), which was already a bad idea, since it was cold as hell outside. Although the heels were nice at the time, I was going to catch a bus to go into the city, then come back by taxi. But after I was done I called my sister (who was supposed

We all have rough patches and they can last for way too long. Days, weeks, or even months. It exhausts us just enough so that we will want to give up. We will only focus on the pain and sadness. And it will ruin us. So let me help you through the desperation and lead you towards some hope. Remember the time you met? How you kinda had a thing for him but wasn't sure? Close your eyes and live through those moments again. See them for the first time again. Then progress, think about when you first started dating, how your first kiss went, laugh if it was awful and smile if it was great and full of passion. Let yourself feel their lips for the first time again. Remember all those first times and really think through them. All the things that made you attracted to your partner, every aspect that actually made you stay with them in the first place. Even through tough times. Now remember the first time you had a disagreement. How did you solve it? How did you feel